I've been hearing a lot of folks saying and writing that life is hard, or life is tough. I've been wondering about that. Hard compared to what? Dying? I suppose so, dying is easy, people do it every day. Heck even old people can die. So, hard compared to what? Then it hit me. Life is only hard when it doesn't compare favorably to my expectations.
I think and hope that once circumstances are favorable, that they won't ever change. That's not very healthy, because things are going to change. I think and hope that life will work out according to my hopes and dreams. That's not very healthy either. Healthy I guess, is living the now. Planning the future as best we can. Dealing with the past as we have need. But really just living this moment, because this moment is all we have.
So I'm not saying "life is hard" anymore.
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I don't agree. It's not just a matter of labeling. It's a matter of fact. Much in life is hard and it's not just because things don't compare to my expectations, my hopes or my dreams. Yes, I can learn to live in the moment, whether it is a hard moment or an easy moment, a happy moment or a sad moment, a scary moment or a disappointing moment, and that is a healthy response, but that doesn't take away from the fact that there ARE very difficult things in life. To say otherwise is just denial and THAT isn't healthy.
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The comment "Much in life is hard" is also accurate, but does that mean that all of life itself IS hard? And does Not saying Life Is Hard mean the author thinks that life is easy?
I read this post not as saying that life isn't hard. Just like he's not saying that it is. At some point, just saying that things are the way they are is enough, without having to label or judge the quality of them.
For example, saying, "We have less money now than we did before" is not denial, it's a simple fact without the emotional valuation of difficult/easy. We can attach the emotions to it either way, or not at all, and this is not denial. It is taking a breath before deciding what to call something, or just leaving it as it is.
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